Saturday, February 27, 2010

Quoting Tan Sri SM Salim... Apa Nak Jadi

"You know kan how is my relationship with my wife. Since I mampu and there happens to be this girl who can provide me with what I need, tak salah kan I kahwin dengan dia? My wife does not have to know. We do it senyap senyap. I will rent an apartment for our meeting place on every week days lepas office. She needs the financial support for her 2 children and I can provide. In return she gives me what I want which I can't get from my wife. If anything happens after that, I will divorce her and we go separate ways, no strings attached. Maybe put everything in an agreement. All to be agreed upfront. I have asked some of the ustadzs around and they say tak apa. Daripada buat benda haram!"

I was speechless.

I was struck in awe.

"Arjuna (bukan nama sebenar) what about cinta and sayang with the girl? Isn't that equally important? What if your wife knows, tak ke it will break her heart, she will be devastated. If your man-ly desires require it, I am sure your wife will understand. Terus terang dengan dia that you nak kahwin another one and will be fair. Buat cara baik and betul."

"I dah tanya dah masa I was in love with another person dulu. Told her I nak pasang satu lagi but obviously it was a no. Expected what, from a perempuan melayu. Kalau you are in my wife's situation, I am sure you pun tak akan permit your husband to marry another one. Tell me you bagi ke? So after that incident, I malas nak pursue tanya dia. But I have my needs, natural what for a man."

"You all, man like you.. teruk lah. Mentang mentang wife you dah tua, (actually tak lah tua mana pun, late 40s), you buat macam ni kat your wife. If you nak remuk kan hati dia, buat dia menangis for the rest of her life, tak malu kat anak anak you yang dah besar besar tu, you go ahead. Don't tell me I did not adivise you. You remind me of the contract marriage which I encountered when I was working in Iran dulu. Arjuna, it is what they call legalised prostitution!"

"Kan I dah kata tadi, she doesn't have to know."

"Yelah tu... so stupid. As if the girl will not blackmail you, bring you to court or hocus pocus kat you sampai you jadi gila kat dia. The girl dah dapat duit, dapat husband lagi buta buta macam tu. Takkan dia nak lepaskan you. I have seen this thing happening many times, terus rumahtangga with first wife lebur! By the way I am just wondering, ramai lagi ke millionaire in Malaysia ni yang buat macam you ni? The so called kahwin kontrak? Mentang mentang lah dah ada big bungalow, CLK and everything that money can buy, this is what you all resort to!"

Arjuna did not answer my question.

I think I kind of know the answer.

"Bro... divert kan lah your energy to something else. There are lots of things you can do, bowling, golf, futsal, photography, oh lupa... and blogging too."

"You lupa satu TM, mengaji Quran!"

"Huh! Tahu tak pe."

End of conversation.

The Shi'ites have many practices which are not acceptable to the Sunnis. One of them is the legalised prostitution or mut'a. Also like the one below, a photo of me and Saidina Ali, picturing how the Shi'ites believe Saidina Ali looks like. Don't be surprised, they also have some idea of how Nabi Muhammad s.a.w. look like too.


For obvious reasons, the blogger's moderation is enabled from now onwards.

No worries, just something I wish to try out for these couple of days.

Catch the interesting entries soon.


Monday, February 22, 2010

Eighteen Years

I received this casserole as our Anniversary gift from beloved husband after a good 6 months of eyeing it. With 8 people in the house, Gi**t welcomed us with wide open arms almost every weekend whenever we shopped there, and finally.... beloved husband who has been diligently accumulating the stamps managed to get this one me for RM 9.90 with 200 stamps. I know some of you who are reading this have also been usha-ing the pots and pans!

(picture withdrawn)

It is our 18th Anniversary today. It has been a lot of smooth and not mentioning bumpy rides. Alhamdulillah we managed to bertahan until this point and hopefully, more years to share and encounter together. We realised that whatever awaits us in the future, some could bring us joy whilst others could be tormenting. That is life.

I recall what Mitch Albom mentioned in his book Tuesdays with Morrie. He said "There are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage; If you don't respect the other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to compromise, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of values in life, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike"... very true!

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

LOKEH as in Lekas

So they say the Nogori clan doesn't have to find any reason to go back to Kuala Pilah, Jelebu, Rembau, Tampin and kawasan-kawasan yang sewaktu dengannya. That is one of the main reasons why there are many SKS buses plying on the KL-Seremban highway and the long human queue at Puduraya. Not to mention those who prefer to commute daily from the big city KL to the towns of the Adat Pepatih practice.

That sentiment would be greater now. The opening of the new LEKAS highway facilitates all reasons. It beats the traffic on the PLUS highway from KL to Seremban and the trailing behind the pick up truck or the cement lorry at the narrow but greener road at LBJ.

We used to follow the semi completed highway from Kajang to Mantin and inevitably had to trail the traffic from Mantin to Pasar Besar Seremban. Now, worry no more! The LEKAS is opened from Kajang to Ampangan. Yahooo!!!!

Makin bosar lah roban ayam den, sobab ayam ber tolur jo den akan balik kampung. Tongah nunggu hiway tu sampai Kolo Pilah lak.

Thanks to IJM and thanks to MB Tok Mat Hassan, although I must say that he actually inherited it and big fat chance he may claim credit for it. But who cares! The most important thing is Tok MB made it happen, and the Nogori people has another alternative road to balik kampong.

Sunday, February 14, 2010

The V-Movie

I am a hopeless romantic, and even more hopeless during these few days.

Watched Valentine's Day last night with the whole "jimbeng" minus 3rd Ace who was thrilling-ly watching Percy Jackson and The Lightning Thief at the Cinema House next door.

If you have the time, try not to miss it. I am still reminiscing some scenes in the movie in particular how Julia Roberts is very impactful to my emotions despite she was not playing the leading role. Will get the original DVD when it is out in the market to add to my collection. It will be at par with my other chummy mushy DVDs, the likes of Stepmom and Mamamia which I will play endlessly whenever I think I may fall out of love! So far it almost fell, but it spring right up even after I was determined to bid farewell. Life is good, so is LOVE.

Happy V Day (I don't celebrate but I just love the V shape because it reminds me of peace!)

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Kong Hee Fatt Choy

Gong Xi Fa Cai to all my Chinese friends and readers. Lots of luck and good health to all of you.

This is the year of the Metal Tiger. They say the tiger is courageous and dynamic. I surely hope the year of the Tiger will bring lots of good improvement to everyone, in terms of love, health, money etc etc.

I came across an article on what's the year of Tiger has in store for the fella animals. I am born in the year of Horse and indeed it is scary-mary reading about it.  It sounds good and promising cuma I don't really believe in it, cuz if I do, it will usually happen the other way round. I am just enjoying every second of life and taking one thing at a time.

Just skip the next para if you wish, otherwise, read and laugh it with me :-

This is a year for you to jump at every opportunity and perform your best. Many chances are coming your way to improve your finances, home and love life, quality of living and work situations- and you'll feel as if you've the Midas touch as everything you turn your energy towards brings success for you! Don't sit by and wonder if you should get involved- go for it, and claim your winnings. 

Best Tip for Health: Eat and rest well; you need pure energy for a whirlwind, exciting year ahead 

Best Tip for Love: Early autumn, you're in hot demand 

Best Tip for Money: Emotions and activity levels are high, but your spending needn't be- look for opportunities to do things at better value, else you may needlessly blow your budget 

Have a great Lunar Year Ahead.

Water Conservation Initiative

Lake in Puchong Prima

Lake Toba

Water is precious, yet it is being wasted or poorly managed. You can help promote water conservation by sending on this meme.

If you do, simply follow these rules:

1. Create a blog entry entitled "Water Conservation Initiative".

2. Post the Water Initiative Network's Water Facts in your post.

3. List 3 things YOU will do to save water.

4. Add in the photo above, or any photo you have taken of a waterfall, river or lake.

5. End with the line: "Find out more about water conservation and good governance by joining the Water Initiative Network on Facebook! Visit us here at: Water Initiative Network!

Tag 5 or more blog/FB friends. Be sure to copy the rules, okay?


1. Of every 100 drops of water on earth, 97 are too salty to drink, 2 are locked in ice and snow, and 1 is fresh water.

2. The daily requirement for sanitation, bathing, and cooking needs, as well as for assuring survival, is about 50 litres per person.

3. Reducing shower time from 20 mins to 8 mins saves up to 360 litres of water per shower.

4. A small drip from a faucet can waste as much as 75 litres of water a day.

5. Two thirds of the water used in a home is used in the bathroom. To flush a toilet, we use up to 9 litres of water.

6. Water-efficient toilets and washing machines are good ways to save water.

7. A low-tech way to save water is to form the habit of turning on the tap to low flow and turning it off when the water is not needed.

8. Non-revenue water (i.e. stolen or wasted water) constitutes 36% of water 'used' in Selangor, Malaysia, and this raises the cost of water for everyone.

9. Water supply infrastructure cost billions of ringgit. This money could be spent in more useful ways.

10. Large areas of forests are cleared to make way for water supply dams to accommodate our soaring demand for water. These forests and their wildlife represent our natural heritage.


1. Water used to wash beras, ikan, udang and ayam will be re-used for my plants.

2. Big NO NO to running tap water whilst brushing my teeth.

3. Rain water on Thursday nights will be conserved for better use.


1. Kitchen Guardian

2. Lyana

3. Madam Principal

4. Yati Dell

5. Kak Ezza

Other tid bits on water :

My trip to Hong Kong last month was in connection with treating water, a way to preserve this valuable essential. The discussion went well and many things are underway. I guess I have in a way discharged my duty as citizen of the world : )

Find out more about water conservation and good governance by joining the Water Initiative Network on Facebook! Visit us here at:!/group.php?gid=282587736385&ref=nf

Sunday, February 7, 2010

Shop Til You Drop Weekend

I didn't think I was going to Indonesia that soon after our family trip to Sumatera. The invitation to Jakarta and Bandung sometime late December was just too attractive to resist. Tak ingat how I was pulled into it. Tahu tahu je I was already doing my ticket booking with AA.

Naz, Desert Rose, Edelweiss, Kay and myself were the most eager beavers during that last week of Jan. The fb status and the comments posted simply were making me wonder how the weekend would be. My last status was "bergelora dan tertanya-tanya..." described exactly how I was feeling.

The fact that I don't really know Naz, DR and Edel except in the blogosphere, really made it even more interesting and adventurous. For DR and Edel, I met them briefly in one of the bloggers meets at the Korean Restaurant. I have not met Naz, scary jugak nak jumpa Naz because, she seems to be the fantastic blogger whom others idolise, always writing about her life routine jauh di perantauan. Boleh ke get along? ... Yelah, I am so lepak and not a person who can easily get along with others very fast. Are they like who they are in their blogs, because if they are, well... we are going to bring the house down, definitely! Although we may be like strangers, except in the cyberworld, I am willing to give it a shot for the sake of one and common goal... shopping and enjoy.

My mission was accomplished. We evidently enjoyed our hearts out. Talking, laughing, exchanging gossips, eating, shopping, panicking, .... what have you! You can catch the wonderful writeup on the weekend at Naz's, Kay's and DR's. Mine here is just the snapshots of the superb time we spent together at Jakarta and Bandung.

DR and Edel regretfully had to join us later that Friday night. Although I have been to Jakarta and Bandung several times, nothing is as special as being there with the Ibuks. It started off with Naz, Kay and myself going to the mall which seems to be on everyone's lips, Tanah Abang, or what is fondly known as TA. Although my main intention was to ENJOY the company and not shopping, it got smashed, because as Pak Mono dropped us at Lantai 6 TA and masuk masuk je the first shop, dah tergoda. Subsequently the intention "yang tak mahu shop sangat tu" resulted in each one of us bought at least two blouses each. After that particular shop, we realised that more damage was to come.

So we braced ourselves from one shop to another in TA. It was the shoes....

Kebaya, and right after that the telekong and baju puteh, be it baju umrah or blouses ala ala kebaya.

Cheap bargains. Although one was selling in the range of 80 ribu rupiah to 120 ribu rupiah, which is considered cheap already, nak jugak negotiate the price down to 20 thousand rupiah or if dah dead cheap, 5 thousand rupiah pun enough to satisfy these Ibuks.

Cotton, bags, kebayas.. they were all up for grabs.

We didn't mind skipping our lunch for the sake of shopping and when TA curtains closed down, the customers were rushing out and the wait for Pak Mono which was meant to be just 10 minutes became almost 45 minutes. I think if DR and Edel were able to join us at TA, mahu letak kaki kat pintu kedai not to allow them to close!

When DR and Edel joined us that night, despite arriving late about almost 1 am, we knew that the excitement will continue for the rest of the weekend.

Our journey to Bandung was equally exciting. Naz was passionately taking pictures of what we encountered on our way whilst most of us turned ourselves into chatterbox.

We stopped at one of the R&R. DR in particular was in utter shock when an exodus of local Ibuks came into the toilets almost hijacking the kamar kecil. Some even went in pairs!

Edel narrating her awestruck one of the kind exeperience in the blogosphere. It was amazing how much blogging has taught us the meaning of life *wink.

Since Naz and Edel have never been to Bandung, it will not be complete if we do not menunaikan syarat sah ke Bandung which is Tangkuban Perahu and familiarising with the myth of Dayang Sumbi and Sangkuriang.

We snapped pics, shop (lagi) and fought our way with the retailers who persisted that we buy the magnets, the bangles, the sulphur, teeshirts etc etc. We felt like celebrities followed by the paparazzis, only that this time the paparazzis were never discreet.

Our tummies were already berkeroncong when Tangkuban Perahu was done. We headed to Ma' Uneh, the famous Sundanese restaurant. I have heard so much about Ma' Uneh but never get to eat there. My comments... Wah...!!! No wonder it is such a popular eatery. I love the sup buntut and the karedok and the gurami even the avocado juice. Arrgghhh... semua lah!

After lunch, it was time to shop til we drop. This time, it was the FOs. And the damage....

Tak habis shopping on the second day and despite uang di kantung 1 is "kosong", masih butuh untuk belanja di hari terakhir. Our mission was to get pairs and pairs of denims at Toko Tiga.

Unfortunately, it was semi-shattered by the wrong road (wrong sebab he forgot about the jam !) taken by the supir and we were stuck in the machet for almost an hour. What a waste of time but we saw some survival sights of Bandung.

The hour plus spent at Toko Tiga telah obviously membuahkan banyak hasil. (Pic below is courtesy of Kay)

The journey to Jakarta was again filled with laughter and tears. Tears sebab ketawa besar!

As we reached Jakarta, satu kejutan telah berlaku. We shocked Pak Mono when we told him that we wanted to shop some more at ITC Kuningan. He just could not believe his eyes. Despite berkeras telling us "machet, takut tak sempat ke Bandara", these Ibuks forgot the vocabulary of "listen" instead it was just "belanja and belanja and belanja". Pak Mono had to give in not knowing that moi knew some tricks to beat the jam. Ha ha ha!

At ITC Kuningan we realised that there was a lot more to shop resulting in Kantung Emergency had to be taken out. Bukan setakat Kantung Emergency only, we were alraedy threading on dangerous waters because it was alraedy injury time when Edel and DR were still hunting for their little ones' clothes.

Nonetheless dipendikkan cerita, we managed to reach the Bandara on time.

Sadly, it was time to leave. Naz took the other flight earlier than us and it was just heartbreaking as we bade each other goodbye.

Our flight was delayed for about 45 minutes. In the meantime, whilst waiting, Edel snapped my photo and please please... don't focus on me, but focus lah kepada wanita bertopi hitam itu. She was wearing the hat through out the journey, and even as we saw her at the Malaysian immigration at LCCT at almost 1 am, she was still wearing it. I wonder how she sat on the hot seat in AA plane. Mesti lenguh leher and kepala.

The enjoyment ended with hugs and most importantly we enjoyed ourselves to the bits. The memories of me spending the weekend in Jakarta and Badung with Kay, Naz, Edel and DR will be sentiasa terpahat di sudut hatiku....

Tuesday, February 2, 2010

You Will Be Missed, Ayna !

I know some of you may be waiting for me to update on the latest weekend happening. The fb buzzing with the tag line "shopping is cheaper than a psychiatrist" should just be enough for now to describe how superb the weekend was. With 5 crazy girls wanting to paint the critical malls and FOs in Jakarta and Bandung respectively red, loaded with the many Rupiahs in Kantung 1, Kantung 2 and Kantung Emergency!. But that will have to wait. Indeed the shopping mania was playing like a broken record in my mind til this morning and it just stopped!

The reason it stopped because... Ayna has left us.

The house used to be filled with the laughter of the 5 Aces. About the same time last year, Aliah left for Samura and today, this year, it is Ayna's turn. With a heavy heart she left for Sek Men Science Rembau (Semesra). : (

Ayna looking sad in her new classroom

Sek Men Science Rembau, at Pilin Rembau

The things I will miss most about my 2nd Ace, Ayna :-

1) My i-Pod and blog will not be uploaded with the latest songs.
2) No canggih photos to be uploaded, it will just be those from my camera phone.
3) No one to rely on to send Alina and Ali to tuition, music class and koko when I return late.
4) No more partner in crime to stay awake till the wee hours.
5) No co-pilot to check on me when I am driving with the "un-berhemah" attitude.

Nantha, the tae kwan do Sir made a farewell speech which was very touching, narrating how he has known Ayna for the longest time i.e. since she was 6 years old til she achieved the black belt.

Her SMK4 school friends, in particular Luqman, Lina, Zulaikha, Faiz will also miss her because the laughter will not be the same anymore.

Although you are far away in Rombau, Ayna, you will be missed. I still remember cuddling you when you have the tiny little toes and fingers, and without realising it, you are now leaving us... Even Bibik was worried when we returned from sending you because according to her, you looked exteremely sad, she noticed!

Study hard, play hard and enjoy your life in Semesra, dear.